I have a friend... I'll call him Kevin. Well, Kevin has a lover or girlfriend who is white, but won't be seen in public with him. And, she will only have sex with him at night, with the light off. After I got off the floor laughing and from utter shock, I asked him... "What the fuck is wrong with you?" And to my surprise, he had no answer. He was really baffled. I asked him what he thought the answer was and he replied that I should know because I was a woman!
That was definitely the wrong reply! There has been a well documented history of why black men want to date white women. Since black people landed on the shore of America in captivity white women were considered taboo for black men. It didn't matter that slave-masters had their way with black women. A black man would be lynched or worse if he even looked at a white woman.
But, that has never stopped many black men from salivating about white pussy! Does it smell better? Does it taste better? Is it deeper? Is it pinker? Will it elevate my standing in the white community? Yes, some black men really think that having a white woman makes their lives better! I suggest that you ask some of those rich black men who married interracially, and then got divorced.Their money went where?
However, history never tells about the slave masters white wives, relatives, friends and female associates who fell in love with black men's dicks while they were standing on that auction block. That in itself is a taboo subject. Pictures of white men raping or having sex with black women during slavery are abundant. Just google it. Very seldom do you see a picture of a white woman forcing a black man to engage in sexual activities. It happened all of the time, but was kept " under the covers."
So, back to my friend Kevin. I asked him if he was dating a black woman and she would not be seen in public, nor have sex with him with the lights on, what would he do? Kevin said that he would take it as an insult because she was of the same race. And it wouldn't be insulting because she is white? I realized at that point, that my friend needed a little schooling. So I took him to school!
I told him that she did not want to be seen with him, nor did she want to have sex with him with the lights on was because he was a "nigger". Yep...the N word! Simply, she was embarrassed to be seen with him. She was embarrassed that she was having sex with him. She looked down upon him. She wanted to fulfill that fantasy that many white women refuse to admit that they have. That fantasy is to have sex with a black man. Even if they can't stand them. So, the next time Black man, that you want to pull your dick out and put into a white pussy, think about the reasons why you want to. Or, it may mean your emotional, social, and economic downfall.
And, to my black sisters think about it also....we'll deal with those thoughts at another time!
I HATE BLACK PEOPLE! I HATE BLACK PEOPLE! I HATE BLACK PEOPLE! I HATE BLACK PEOPLE! WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR PEOPLE? THOSE ARE YOUR FOLKS! BLACK PEOPLE DON'T STICK TOGETHER! BLACK PEOPLE ARE NOT UNITED! THAT'S WHAT YOU GET FOR DOING BUSINESS WITH BLACK PEOPLE!
Well, you would guess that those words came out of the mouths of people who are not black wouldn't you? Nah! These words have flowed like water out of the mouths of black people. Including myself...until I realized why I said them in the first place. You see, these words were not planted into the mouths of black people by themselves. But by every every institution in Amerikkka that promotes internalized racism.
The book " Flipping the Script: White Privilege and Community Building" by Maggie Potapchuk, Sallie Liederman, Donna Bivens and Barbara Major states that:
…Just as racism results in the system of structural advantage called white privilege for white people and their communities, internalized racism results in the system of structural disadvantage called internalized racism for peoples and communities of color on inter- and intra-group levels. Practically speaking, people of color cannot force white people to notice, acknowledge or dismantle racism and the white privilege that results from it. Nor can we continually monitor and check up on their progress.
For one thing, a great deal of what happens to hold racism and white privilege in place goes on out of the purview of peoples of color. Ultimately, white people must come to their own understanding of why it is in their interests to dismantle a system that does not work for all humanity and commit to creating something better. The biggest contribution people of color can make to the dismantling of racism and the white privilege it results in is to notice, acknowledge and dismantle internalized racism—that is, to claim and bring forth our full humanity, power and wisdom as co-creators of an anti-racist society and culture. Thus, we will not fully dismantle white privilege until people of color address its counterpart: internalized racism. To understand and address internalized racism, it is important to be aware of three major things:
1. As people of color are victimized by racism, we internalize it. That is, we develop ideas, beliefs, actions and behaviors that support or collude with racism. This internalized racism has its own systemic reality and its own negative consequences in the lives and communities of people of color. More than just a consequence of racism, then, internalized racism is a systemic oppression in reaction to racism that has a life of its own. In other words, just as there is a system in place that reinforces the power and expands the privilege of white people, there is a system in place that actively discourages and undermines the power of people and communities of color and mires using our own oppression. Individuals, institutions and communities of color are often unconsciously and habitually rewarded for supporting white privilege and power and punished and excluded when we do not. This system of oppression often coerces us to let go of or compromise our own better judgment, thus diminishing everyone as the diversity of human experience and wisdom is excluded. equally harmfully, the system can trap people and communities of color in an op-positional stance that can undermine creativity as situations are seen through a limited victim/perpetrator lens that cuts us off from the breadth of possibility.
2. Because internalized racism is a systemic oppression, it must be distinguished from human wounds like self-hatred or "low self-esteem," to which all people are vulnerable. It is important to o understand it as systemic because that makes it clear that it is not a problem simply of individuals. It is structural.
Thus, even people of color who have ““high self-esteem” must wrestle with the internalized racism that infects us, our loved ones, our institutions and our communities. Internalized racism must, then, be understood as a system to be grappled with by people and communities of color in the same way that even the most committed anti-racist white people must continue to grapple personally and in community with their own and other white people’s privilege until our existing racist system is abolished and replaced.
3. Internalized racism negatively impacts people of color intra-culturally and cross-culturally. Because race is a social and political construct that comes out of particular histories of domination and exploitation between Peoples, people of colors’ internalized racism often leads to great conflict among and between them as other concepts of power—such as ethnicity, culture, nationality and class—are collapsed in misunderstanding. Especially when race is confused with nationality and ethnicity, internalized racism often manifests in different cultural and ethnic groups being pitted against each other for the scarce resources that racism leaves for people who do not have white privilege. This can create a hierarchy based on closeness to the white norm. At the same time it cripples all of us in our attempt to create a society that works for all of us.high self-esteem” must wrestle with the internalized racism that infects us, our loved ones, our institutions and our communities. Internalized racism must, then, be understood as a system to be grappled with by people and communities of color in the same way that even the most committed anti-racist white people must continue to grapple personally and in community with their own and other white people’s privilege until our existing racist system is abolished and replaced.
I know that it sounds cliche, but we need to get our shit together!
