Or maybe you’re called a jezebel, a wench, a mammy, a hoe
I pose to you this question, what is your perception of black women today? Not just in America, but maybe in places like Africa. Think about it for a minute…Don’t worry… I can wait. Now that you’ve thought about it, let’s discuss what some of your answers may be.
Remember the scene in “Being Mary Jane” where she was interviewing a very powerful white woman and the white woman replied that she was just another mad ugly black woman? Of course I am paraphrasing here…but you got the jist.
So, let’s start with the perception of what white men think about black women in America. I don’t believe, and I wonder if you do, that it has changed at all since black women were brought here on horrible feces and disease infected slave ships and exploited.
I don’t believe that we have ever been unshackled, and that we are all still in chains, in one way or another. Oh, except the black elite women…. Sitting in their social circles of bullshit, drinking lemon drop martinis and wearing Cartier. Like Oprah for instance, who catered to white people during 25 years of her show. But now, after making billions, you can barely find a white television show on OWN. Wonder, why that is? My kudo’s to her, she made billions. But in retrospect, when Oprah first came to Chicago, on the show “AM Chicago” where the majority of her audience were black women…she never even gave us our props. We made her ass…and she forgot about who did.
Oh, let’s get back to the white men. Ya’ll know that I get off track sometimes. I’m a passionate blogger. So, the white men looked at our big luscious breasts and booties when they got to the motherland. He thought “you sexy muthafucka” (prince’s song), then his dick got hard. But with his tunnel “I’m all about the money” vision, he thought about how he could make money with these big booties and breasts. His dick got hard again…and he thought “I could merge fucking the black woman and making money off of her big black juicy ass.”
Saartjie "Sarah" Baartman (before 1790 – 29 December 1815)[ was the most famous of at least two[2] Khoikhoi women who, due to their large buttocks (steatopygia), were exhibited as freak show attractions in 19th-century Europe under the name Hottentot Venus—"Hottentot" was the then current name for the Khoi people, now considered an offensive term,[3] and "Venus" referred to the Roman goddess of love.
He had visions of the “mammy” in his head. Black women running all around him, everywhere. Washing his clothes, wiping his ass, sucking his dick with those juicy black lips and picking cotton until they died in the fields. Do you think that his perception of the black woman has changed…I don’t? The thing is, white men have a hate/love relationship with black women. From being reproductively abusive during slavery to increase their profit, to fucking black women silently behind the screens of today’s television shows to increase their profit, nothing has changed.
So, what has been the most significant stereotype of black women? Think about the picture of Aunt Jemima on the pancake box. I mean, before they gave her a perm. But that “yessa massa” smile still remains.
The largest indicator of how white men think about black women in general is how they are portrayed on that 99-inch propagandist television that sits in your living room. Either they are beautiful or ugly, no in between. Either they are fat or skinny, no in between…either they cater to the European look…or they cater to none basically. To be accepted by the white, male dominated television or radio industry you better damn well step in line. Ask Viola Davis, one of the most acclaimed and unsung black actresses in America.
Have you ever lived in Chicago? One of the most racially segregated cities in America. Well, let me tell you about an experience that happened to me.
As I was walking down the street, coming from my university, there was a building that was under reconstruction. As you know, to prevent injury to pedestrians, there was a scaffold structure to walk under. As I was walking under the narrow scaffolding, there were 2 white male lawyers (whom I knew) walking towards me. To my surprise, both audaciously expected me to step down into the gutter so that they could pass.
Well, after I finished knocking the hell out of them with my book bag and my shoulder as they passed, I heard them say “damn, watch where you’re going!”. And my response was “you saw me coming, so you watch where you’re going!” Of course they were shocked. They expected me to move. I do not move when a white person, especially a man shows me that I am supposed to step off into the gutter…that’s what they think, that black women have been, and should, step into the gutter.
Haven’t we been in the gutter long enough?
I do not ever move out of the way for a white person, especially a man, if he appears that he believes that I should yield to him, and I never will!
Oh, by the way, to you black women who are married to white men, do you think that he has ever, in his mind called you a nigger? I have the answer, he has. If you don’t believe it ask him. Of course he will never tell you the truth…but he has. Every, and I do mean every white person, especially men, have called black women “UGLY BLACK BITCHES”. Those words are engrained into our society so deeply, that some women call each other ugly black bitches. (Of course that is what some black women call each other)! I myself have said “Bitch, please!
Who is behind the television reality shows that implores black women to call each other bitches? White men. Who is behind the marketing for the majority of clothes that black women wear? White men. Who is behind the radio stations who play music over and over where black women are called bitches? White men? If there is a Black Ugly Bitch in the house raise your hand! Did you? C’mon Son! No hands raised?
Well know this, every time you walk out of the door…before you get to your destination…and you see a white man…know that you have been called an Ugly Black Bitch. So my question is…which is more important, what they call you or what you answer to?